How To Turn A Girl On Sexually: The 13 BEST Ways (She Will Want You)

Turn a girl on is quite simple.

Did you know that you can turn on a girl quickly and easily, without putting much effort into it?

how to turn her onWell, in this article I’m going to share with you 13 powerful ways to turn women on and make them want you.

You can either use these techniques in isolation, or combine them.

There are a lot of ways to turn on the girls you find attractive.

And that’s what we’re going to see below…

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Without further ado, let’s begin with the first technique:

1) Turn a girl on by complimenting her:

Some people claim that you should never compliment girls, others (much less, though) will say that complimenting girls is the key.

To tell you the truth, it depends very much on the context and the timing.

If you make the wrong compliment wrong place wrong time, chances are that you’ll be disappointed by the reaction of the girl.

On the other hand, if you make the right compliment on the right time – and that the girl sees you as a normal guy (and not as a creepy) – chances are that this compliment is going to litterally turn her on.

A good compliment is very effective to sexualize an interaction.

The goal of sexualization is to get the girl to think about sex – consciously or unconsciously.

To get the girl to consider (or at least to imagine) a relationship with you.

To get the girl to feel that something is going on between you and her.

Sexualization is therefore a powerful weapon to avoid being friend zoned 😉

A good compliment precisely allow you to make a woman feel that way.

In order that your compliment has the desired effect, you’re going to customize it based on the girl and the context:

You can compliment the girl on her clothes, on her hair, on her jewelry, or even pay her a more audacious compliment directly on her physique (on her eyes, her legs, and so on).

For instance:

  • “I like your dress, I find it very sexy…”
  • “I like your tee-shirt, it suits you very well…”
  • “I like your jeans, very sexy…”
  • Etc.

If you want to make her a bold compliment directly on her physique and that you’re not very at ease with this sort of things, you can end your sentence with a question that is linked to this compliment.

For instance:

“You have beautiful legs, do you work out?”

A good compliment is a compliment that suggests that you find the girl sexually attractive.

Such compliments are very effective to turn a girl on.

You make her feel that there is something in her that you find attractive.

It puts into her head a possible relationship with you.

It leaves the rest of the interaction very exciting.

This is one of my favorite ways to turn on women.

If you wonder how to turn a girl on with words, compliments are a powerful way to do it.

However, when making your compliment to the girl, you must (and that leads us to the second technique to turn on girls)…

2) Look deep into her eyes:

The look on your face is very important to arouse a woman.

Especially when you approach her (at the time of delivering your first words) or when you compliment her.

When you look deep into her eyes, she feels that you’re at ease with what you’re saying.
She feels that you’re honest.
She feels that you’re authentic.

She feels your dominant personality.

So when talking to a girl you want to seduce, look right into her eyes.

This way, you’re going to captivate her.
She’s almost going to feel hypnotized.

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Look tells a lot.

So look at her deep into the eyes.

And don’t look away.
Wait until it’s her who looks away.

It’s even more effective when there’s a lull in the conversation (for instance when you’re on a date with her and that none of you are talking).

3) Do a ballsy projection:

What I call a ballsy projection is something you say to the girl that implies that you’re going to get together in a relationship (romantic and/or sexual) at some point.

For instance:

“You’ll have to take this off when I introduce you to my mother” (by pointing at one of her clothes)

“Is that how you’re going to educate our children?” (if she has just said something rude or ridiculous)

“I’ll take you there for our honeymoon” (for example if you’re talking about dream destinations or that you walk past a travel agency).

To ensure that your projection is well received, you can deliver it on a playful tone.

A ballsy projection allows you to subtly turn on a girl you like by getting her to imagine various romantic scenarios with you.

4) Disagree with her:

When you constantly agree on everything with a girl, you kill sexual tension that might exist between you and her.

Cause when you do that, you become dull.
You become insipid, asepticized.
Like artificial food devoid of taste.

At that moment, the girl can’t feel your masculinity.
She can’t feel the man inside of you.

That’s why this kind of interactions rarely lead to sex (or to a romantic relationship).

That’s not by agreeing with the a girl on everything that you’re going to turn her on.
Nor by showing her that you have all sort of things in common.

What really turn women on is your aura of masculinity.
It’s the masculine energy that you make her feel.

This energy is going to excite the feminine part of the girl you want to seduce.
And that is going to generate a powerful excitation.

And it’s not by agreeing on every topic with the girl that you’re going to make her feel this powerful masculine energy.

One way to make her feel this masculine energy is precisely to make her feel your warrior spirit, your incorruptible personality.

That’s why you must not change who you are to please her.
You must not bend.

Because if you do so, she will see you as weak.

As I said, you must make her feel your masculinity.

And an easy and simple way to do do is to disagree with her.

Or by having an opinion different from hers and defending your point of view in spite of the fact that she doesn’t share the same view.

Or by persuading her with intelligent arguments that she’s mistaken on a particular subject.

If you do this, she’ll find you much more exciting that all those boring guys who always try to agree with her on everything she says.

You’ll have made her felt your masculinity.

And this way, you’ll have woken up her femininity.
And she’ll feel magnetically attracted to you.

So the next time you talk to a girl you’re attracted to, resist to the temptation to agree with her on everything she says.

Because if you fall into this trap, you can be sure that there’ll be no sexual tension between you and her… And that you won’t go beyond the friend zone.

5) Take back all your attention from her:

Taking back your attention after having given it to her.

When you take your attention back from a girl, she is going to try to get it back.

Or at least she is going to wonder why you don’t give her some attention anymore.

  • “Why doesn’t he look at me anymore?”
  • “Why doest’ he talk to me anymore?”
  • “Why doesn’t he laugh with me anymore?”
  • Etc.

All kinds of question that are going to run through her head.

She’s going to feel titillated.

And if she’s a woman who is used to have all the men to her knees, she’s going to want to chase you. Like a spoiled child who shows a tantrum when he can’t get a specific toy).

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She’s going to become a predator…

A sexual predator wanting to conquer you.

To make a woman want to chase you, you must learn how to flip the script.
You must learn how to become the prey.

Because if you always act as the predator, the girl won’t be able to act like it.

She’ll always be the prey, and you the predator.

By flipping the script, you precisely allow her to become the predator.
You make her want to to chase you.

And when she has decided to eat you, you’ve won 😉

6) Reject her:

This technique is quite similar to the one we just saw.

It consists of subtly rejecting the girl, but in a way that allow you to sexualize the interaction.

Here are a few examples so that you understand what I mean:

  • “Too bad, it’s not going to work between us.”
  • “It’s a pity that you’re blond, I only date brunettes.”
  • “I would have loved to take you out for a drink, but you look a bit crazy, I’m afraid of what might happen.”
  • Etc.

You make a comment in which you point out the impossibility of a relationship between you and the girl.

By feeling rejected this way, the girl is going to want to come back at you to seduce you.
She’s going to want to prove you wrong.

7) Turn on a girl by the secret:

If you unveil all the details of your life and all your intentions right away, there’s no mystery anymore.
There’s nothing more to find out.

The interaction is then much less exciting.

There’s no excitation of potential future discoveries anymore.

That’s why you should never say everything about you to a woman you want to arouse.

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Like poker, you should never lay all your cards on the table before being sure to win, or without being ready to lose your stake.

You can say to her that you find her attractive, but never desperately say to her that you’re totally in love with her, or that you can’t live without here… (unless you’ve been with her for a long time and that she’s madly in love with you, and even then…).

If you’ve just met the girl, you should never fall into the trap of killing the mystery that surrounds the interaction.

Because mystery arouses curiosity.
Mystery is exciting.

The girl is going to want to know more.
She’s going to want to test you.
She’s going to feel titilliated.

She’ll be seduced, without knowing it.

8) Touching her:

Establish physical contact with a girl is a more or less subtle way to add sex to the interaction.

Indeed, sex can been seen as an extreme physical contact.

Physical contact is a powerful weapon to turn a girl on.

Women are very sensitive to physical contacts.

But you should touch her at the right time, with ease and of course without acting like a pervert.

Few men know how to touch women in an exciting way.
That’s why by mastering the art of touching, you’ll be ahead of the game.

To effectively touch a girl, the key is to do it in a totally natural way.
It must be something completely normal for you.
The girl will then feel totally at ease to your contact.

More specifically, don’t look at your hand touching the girl when you establish physical contact. Rather look at the girl in the eyes or around.

Where to touch a girl to turn her on?

You can start by the arms, the hands… Then the hair, the neck… Then the legs… And so on.

Do it gradually.

9) Polarize:

You can create sexual tension by polarisation.

That is to say by implying that YOU are a MAN, and that SHE is a WOMAN.

The key is to make her feel that she’s a woman and that you’re a man.

She must feel as a woman and above all she must feel that YOU are a man.

This is going to wake up her feminine nature and arouse her. She’s going to think about sex.

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Now you’re probably wondering how this should be done…

Well, simply by seizing the opportunities in the conversation.

Here are a few examples:

“You have a pretty dress. If I had been a girl, I would have bought the same. But unfortunately I can’t, I am a man.”

“You girls alway do that?”

“We men don’t react in the same way as you girls.”

And so on.

10) Talk about sex:

You can turn a girl on by talking about sex.

If you’re at ease with that, you can openly talk about sex.
You can also make a double entendre.

Talking about sex allows you to arouse the girl by making her think about sex.
It gets her to picture sexual scenarios into her mind.

You stimulate some areas of her mind and you almost get her wet 😉

Here are some things you can say to bring sex into a conversation:

“My friend couldn’t sleep last night, she was awaken at 3am by neighbours who were fucking.” then you add “They were making so much noise, the girl must have been banged hard!”
By stressing sexual words such as “fucking”, “banged”, etc. you get the girl to feel and imagine the scenario, and then to get turned on.

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You can also bring sex into the conversation by asking questions such as:

“Is it true that women love sex even more than men?”, and in the case you’re not very at ease with asking this kind of question, you can add: “A friend of mine told me this a few days ago, she seemed really convinced.”

Another way to easily talk about sex is to bring up gossips, such as “Mike slept with Julia”, “Steve cheated on Debora”, etc. It’s an easy way to talk about sex while being relaxed and detached.

How to turn a girl on over text?

The best texts to turn on girls are sexual messages.
Sext messages.
But not just any sext messages…

The most effective text messages to turn on girls are text messages containing exciting words.
Words that are likely to arouse the mind of the girl.

Because women are excited by words.
Words arouse their imagination.

Girls can think about many exciting things.
They can interpret the words they hear in a way that is going to turn them on.

One of the advantages of the texting is that it stays between you and her.
It’s private.
There’s no social pressure.

This way, the girl can let go more freely, without being afraid of being judged by her friends.

Another advantage of texting is that you can reply whenever you want.
And this way, you can maintain this exciting vibe as long as you wish.

Here are 3 practical advices to turn on a girl in a solid way by sending her sext messages:

11) Be direct, but don’t overdo it:

Women are attracted to self-confident men.

You must be this kind of man while texting a girl you want to turn on.

But it doesn’t mean that you can do shit and go too far.

You won’t send texts such as: “It was nice meeting you, I look forward to fuck you hard this week”

It won’t work.
There’s no charm in it.
No subtlety.

It’s way too direct.
The girl will think that you view her as easy or as a slut.
And then it will be game over.

It’s better to send subtler messages, such as:

“It was nice meeting you, I can’t help thinking about your hips… I couldn’t plenty concentrate on my work today, you have a bad influence on me young lady ;)”

12) If she is shocked, move on without apologizing:

Sometimes the girl will happen to be shocked.
Or she will appear to be shocked.

In some cases she will really be shocked.
In other cases she will only appear to be shocked, in order to protect her reputation in your eyes and/or not to be seen as easy.


In this kind of situation, don’t apologize.

Don’t act like a shy guy who is not at ease with what he writes and who is afraid of losing the girl.

You would kill attraction.
You would kill the excitation that the girl might feel.

Instead, simply agree that you can be sometimes too much direct, and move on:

“Haha I didn’t think you would take it that way. I must admit I can go a bit too far sometimes. I’ll allow you to punish me ;)”

13) Quickly sexualize your texts:

Don’t be afraid to sexualize your text messages.

If you had a solid and exciting interaction with the girl before taking the number, a light sext message won’t harm.

Sexualize the exchange as soon as the first message.

And continue to raise the temperature over your other text messages.

Text messages sprinkled with sexual hints are very effective to turn on girls.

It is much more exciting than a boring “How is it going today?”.

Put that into practice, you might be surprised by the results 😉

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