How to Sleep with a Girl: 10 Secrets to Seal the Deal (and Have Sex Tonight)

If you’re wondering how to sleep with a girl you’re attracted to, you’ve come to the right place.

Many guys out there struggle when they try to get a girl into bed.

They struggle to have sex with girls they’re really attracted to.

In fact, getting a girl to sleep with you is not very complicated.

Whether she’s hot or ugly, the same principles apply.

The difference is that the hottie will be less likely to forgive weakness in your game.

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In this article, you’re going to discover 10 powerful secrets to seal the deal with a woman.

Once you have incorporated these key points into your game, you’ll have a much easier time sleeping with the girls you like.

➡️ If you haven’t done so yet: take a look at this article in which I show you how you can master women in a way that will turn them on.

In other words, how to dominate women to make them wet with desire.

And NOT just in bed: you’re going to implement these small actions in other contexts and environments, be it after an approach, on a date, at a party, in your everyday life with your girlfriend or wife (or with your ex), and more… so that the woman you like sees you as a powerful dominant male who is able to satisfy her deepest desires and take her to seventh heaven.

...which is what is going to make her want to sleep with you…and even chase you.

You can use these tips to sleep with a girl you just met (to sleep with a girl on the first date, to sleep with a girl on the first night…) or to sleep with a girl that you’ve known for a while.

But I must warn you: reading these key points is not enough (it would be too easy).

You must put them into practice, observe, and assess.

With time and experience, they’ll become natural for you.

And when this happens, you’ll be much more capable of easily bedding those girls you find attractive.

So if you have a girl in sight (or several girls in sight), but you ignore where to start to make something happen with her (or them)…

Read carefully what follows.

Not so long ago, I had the same struggles.

My game wasn’t very solid.

What you need to understand is that…

Women are naturally more selective than men when it comes to having sexual intercourse.

It’s conscious and unconscious at the same time.

By sleeping with a guy, they run the risk of getting pregnant.

Despite the fact that contraceptive methods are now available to everyone, they still have that risk in mind.

That’s why most women don’t sleep with any stranger they come across.

They don’t want to have a child with whoever.

Unconsciously, they want to select the best mate to have those children with.

Women are hypergamous.

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Men, on the other hand, are different.

Us men can sleep with a girl and not suffer the consequences of unprotected sex (at least physically).

We’re biologically programmed to fuck any fuckable girl.

Related: How To Satisfy A Woman Sexually

Women are biologically programmed to select a powerful and dominant male in order to bear healthy children and be protected.

You don’t attract a girl by your physical beauty.

Girls don’t give a shit about it (even if some people claim the opposite).

To attract a girl and sleep with her, you must follow some principles that really matter.

And that’s precisely what we going to see here.

Let’s start with the first key point:

1. To sleep with a girl, do not put her on a pedestal:

It may seem obvious, but it’s worth repeating.

To have sex with a girl (or to make her fall in love with you), you must not worship her.

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You must not put her on a pedestal.

For several reasons:

Firstly, if you idolize her as if she is some kind of a goddess, you’re going to put yourself under pressure.

You’re going to panic.

And the girl is going to feel it.

Which brings me to the second reason…

Why would she be attracted to a guy who considers himself inferior to her?

You only see this in cartoons and movies (and still…)

By putting her on a pedestal, as if she was some kind of a higher being, you trigger disdain…

Read: How Do You Seduce A Woman?

She’s going to treat you as a low-value guy.

And women don’t have sex with low-value guys.

A woman won’t sleep with a guy she sees as lower value than her.

2. Don’t be needy:

Women sleep with men who don’t need them.

Not with men who beg to sleep with them.

Not with men who drop to their knees and fall over themselves to do things for them.

When you’re needy (in other words, when you desperately try to sleep with the girl in question), you’re repulsive.

Women want to sleep with men capable of bringing them value (emotional value, social value…)

Related: How To Get A Woman To Want You

how to get women to sleep with youBy being needy, you bring nothing to the table.

On the contrary, you’re here to take.

That’s how the girl is going to feel about you.

So in order to bed a girl you like, don’t be needy.

Or if you are, don’t show it.

3. Build attraction:

There’s a lot of confusion about attraction.

Attraction is often confused with pleasing.

But those two concepts are fundamentally different.

Pleasing is like getting a girl to like you:

We like someone when we don’t feel negative emotions about them and we appreciate in some way his/her behavior, appearance, tastes…

But is that enough to make us want to sleep with them?

Related: How To Pick Up A Girl

Is that even necessary to make us want to sleep with them?


Or maybe not.

Now, what about attraction?

A person attracts you when you are attracted to this person in an uncontrolled manner.

Is that enough to want to sleep with this person?


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In order to sleep with a woman, you must seek to attract her.

Not to please her.

Not to get her to like you.

But to ATTRACT her.

When you try at all cost to get a girl to LIKE you and the girl sees it, you kill the attraction. You end up being pushed into the friendzone (at best).

Which brings us to the next point…

4. Sexualize:

Sexualizing an interaction consists in introducing sex into the interaction.

Not necessarily physically by taking your penis out in front of the girl while you’re together at a bar or a café, but in a psychological manner.

It consists of getting the girl to think about sex.

Getting her to foresee or to imagine a sexual relationship with you.

And you know what?

To achieve this, you don’t even have to talk about sex or even touch her.

how to get a girl in bedThe key is simply to display masculine traits that will make the girl attracted to you. And that will turn her on.

Like magnetic attraction.

Plus attracts minus and vice versa.

Here, the same principle applies:

Your masculine energy attracts the girl’s feminine energy.

More precisely, you’re going to make her feel desired.

You’re going to express your desire.

You’re going to make her feel that you’re attracted to her and that something might happen between you and her.

Compliments are very effective for this.

See also: How To Flirt With Women

5. Use emotions rather than logic:

Many guys are mistaken when they try to convince a girl to sleep with them…instead of making her WANT to sleep with them.

They use logic.

They use rational arguments.

But it doesn’t work like that.

To sleep with a girl, you shouldn’t appeal to her rationality, but to her sensations and emotions.

You don’t turn a girl on by logical and cold reasoning, but by emotional stimulation.

6. Lead:

It’s the job of the man to make the first move.

While a girl might be attracted to you, she’s not going to make the first move.

Especially if she’s very feminine and wants a real man.

At best, she’ll give you some more or less subtle clues to encourage you to approach her.

Related: How To Approach A Woman

But she won’t explicitly declare that she’s interested or that she likes you.

She won’t make the first move.

She’ll wait for you to do it.

And if you don’t approach her, she’s going to see you as a man who lacks courage.

She’s going to see you as a guy who has no balls.

Or she’s going to see you as a man who just wants to be her friend and nothing more.

Some girls are patient, some don’t and get bored (and turned off) very quickly.

Understand that it’s your job to make the first move.

In a larger sense, it’s your job to lead.

It’s your job to direct the movement.

It’s your job to decide.

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It’s your job to initiate action: to send her a first text, to ask her out, to choose the venue for your date, to decide to go on a walk with her at a particular location, to decide to sit at this table rather than at another table, and so on.

It is you who must take the lead.

Women love to be led.

They want to be with men who have the ability to direct interactions.

And when the time to sleep with her comes, she’ll naturally let herself be led and show little resistance.

She’ll have become used to you leading the interaction and will be totally at ease with that.

Related: How To Tell If A Woman Likes You

7. Relax:


Slow down.

Speak slowly.

Move slow.

You’ll look more alpha and it’ll put the girl more at ease.

She’ll adopt the same relaxed state.

8. Express your desire in a shameless way:

A man who’s afraid of expressing his desire is not attractive.

– Her: “Do you like me?”
– You: “Ughhh, erm, no, why?”

If you’re ashamed of your desire when the girl knows that you’re attracted to her, she’s going to see you as a coward.

And in the event that the girl doesn’t know you’re attracted to her, you’ll simply end up in her friendzone.

Now, let’s see the difference it makes when you shamelessly express your desire:

– Her: “Do you like me?”
– You: “Totally. I want to make love to you. Wildly.” (said in a calm and relaxed tone while looking deep into her eyes).

Contrary to what one might think, being honest (and even exaggerating to show that you have some balls and that you’re playful) doesn’t make you look needy.

It’s very attractive.

And it makes you stand out.

sleeping with a womanWhen you radiate self-confidence and behave in a masculine way, honesty is a powerful weapon.

Compliments on the physique of the girl or on her looks are extremely powerful ways to build sexual tension.

Read: Should I Tell A Girl I Like Her?

9. Be unshakable:

If women always throw some shit tests at you or play hard to get, it’s totally normal.

They do that to test you.

To see if they can easily knock you off balance.

Don’t play their game.

Be unshakable.

Be non-reactive.

Don’t let yourself be affected.

Girls will find this extremely attractive.

As a general rule, don’t let yourself be destabilized.

Don’t look for external validation and don’t let others dictate you what to think or what to do.

10. Persist:

Persistence is a trait that makes a big difference between weak guys and solid guys.

Persistence is about not being discouraged at the first hurdle (and at the next one also).

Persistence is about staying the course until you seal the deal…or until the girl rejects you for good.

feel comfortable to sleep with a womanWomen are attracted to men who are able to persist.

Read: What Attracts A Woman To A Man Sexually

And it’s totally understandable: a man who’s able to persist is impressive.

It shows strength and resistance.

So persist.

Don’t let yourself be discouraged at the first rejection.

Stay playful and solid.

[MUST-READ] Be DOMINANT with Women: Know How to MASTER Them (In Everyday Life) to Make Them Fantasize About You

If you enjoyed this article (and even if you didn’t), you’ll love this other extensive post I recently published:

>> Be DOMINANT with Women: Know How to MASTER Them (In Everyday Life) to Make Them Fantasize About You

There’s something you need to understand:

Women want to be submissive.

They fantasize about sexual submission.

And when they meet a dominant man who has the potential to satisfy their submission fantasies, it makes them desire him intensely.

Sounds shocking or surprising to you?

Keep reading…

Today, you’re going to learn how to master women in a way that will turn them on.

You’re going to learn how to dominate women to make them wet with desire.

And NOT just in bed:

You’re going to implement this in other contexts and environments, be it after an approach, on a date, at a party, and more.

You’re going to implement this in your everyday life with the women you like so that they see you as a powerful dominant male who is able to satisfy their desires and take them to seventh heaven.

These actions you’re going to implement daily with the girls you want will lead them to see you as THE man to date.

You’ll stand out.

Women will see you as a potential lover and as a good lay (and that’s a bit of an understatement).

However, there are things you need to understand first.

You’ve got to be ready to try certain things that are a bit bold (more or less depending on the girl and the situation).

It's all there:

>> Be DOMINANT with Women: Know How to MASTER Them (In Everyday Life) to Make Them Fantasize About You

Stay solid,

About the Author

Expert in male-female relationships and passionate about evolutionary psychology, Jack Vitel has been helping for over 10 years men of all ages regain control of their sexual and love lives. He is known for his unique concept of solidity, which allows men to naturally attract the women they want by tapping into their inner masculine potential.