Dating Your Best Girl Friend [5 Steps To Seal The Deal]

What are the steps you need to take to start dating your best girl friend?

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Let’s have a look at what prevents most guys from successfully date their best female friend.

How do you get her to see you as more than just a friend?

How do you take things to the next level with her?

If you’re reading these lines right now, you probably have a female friend of yours that you find attractive.

A female friend that you’d like to date…and to sleep with.
And maybe start a serious relationship with.

You’ve known this girl for months or years…

You get along very well…

But the thing is…

You don’t know how to make things happen with her…

You’re afraid to try something and look like a weirdo or ruin the relationship you have with her.

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In other words, how to dominate women to make them wet with desire.

And NOT just in bed: you’re going to implement these small actions in other contexts and environments, be it after an approach, on a date, at a party, in your everyday life with your girlfriend or wife (or with your ex), and more… so that the woman you like sees you as a powerful dominant male who is able to satisfy her deepest desires and take her to seventh heaven.

...which is what is going to make her want to sleep with you…and even chase you.

Or you’ve already made a move but it didn’t work out: she told you she wasn’t ready for that or that she only likes you as a friend…

This shit happens to a lot of guys.

Some guys even make it their specialty.

This reminds me of this buddy of mine when I was in high school: his strategy was to befriend the girl he wanted and only then make a move on her.

So they would become friends…and it dragged on.

dating your best friend romantic relationshipSo far so good, everything was going according to the plan: they would even become best friends (I must say my buddy was very good at this).

And…their friendship would last for months (if not years).


He couldn’t try anything with the girl.

Because he had built a friendship with her that didn’t allow him to offer anything else.

And when he’d try to take things to the next level with the girl (which was rare), she’d tell him that she just liked him as a friend.

But usually he didn’t try anything…and the girl ended up hooking up with another guy.

This also happened to me a couple of times when I was younger.

The thing is…:

When you become friends with a girl, there’s no longer that sexual tension that existed between you when you first met.

There is no more mystery or doubt.

The excitement and the sexual tension are gone.

are best friends soulmates informed professional adviceNow, if we men are mostly attracted to women’s physique (let’s be honest, it’s one of the main criteria, not to say the number one criterion), the reverse is not true.

A man’s physique is not the main criterion of attraction for a woman.

What women feel mostly attracted to in a man is…how he makes her feel.

What turns a woman on and makes her see you as a man to sleep with (and start a relationship with) is the sexual tension you’re able to create with her.

Related: How To Seduce A Woman (Sexually)

However, when you become friends with a girl, there is no more sexual tension.
There is no longer this atmosphere of seduction and uncertainty that existed in the beginning.

This sexually charged atmosphere has been replaced by the friend zone.

The girl considers you as a friend, and nothing more.

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There is no more mystery, no more tension.

If you want to date your best girl friend successfully, your goal must be to recreate this sexually charged atmosphere that existed between the two of you when you met.

I’m going to show you how you can do this in the next section of this post.

The 5 steps that will allow you to successfully date your best girl friend

The first thing you need to do if you want to recreate a sexually charged atmosphere between you and your friend is to…

1) Create uncertainty:

You want her to start doubting about how you feel about her.

Especially if you’re deep in the friendzone and she knows that you desire her.

How do you do this?

Simple: by distancing yourself.

As if you weren’t into her anymore.

Not only this will make her question herself about your intentions (which will make her more emotionally invested in you), but it will also make her feel that she could be losing you (and thus make her value you more).

best friend relation romantic interest and relationship dynamicsSo if you’re the type of guy who is always available for her, you must make yourself less available.

She shouldn’t be your priority.

That’s how you’ll create some doubts in her mind…from which will arise this atmosphere of uncertainty you want to create.

But you’re not going to stop there.

To make her realize (or think) that she might have feelings for you (and thus that you’re more than just a friend), you’re going to…

2) Make her jealous:

You know it:

When something you value slips away from you, it sucks.

But when something you values slips away from you to someone else, it sucks even more.

By being detached with your friend while hanging out with other women (and making this visible to her), you’re going to trigger some strong feelings in her:

  1. She’s going to feel that she’s losing you, and thus feels an urge to win you back
  2. She’s going to see you as more attractive, since women are biologically hardwired to be sexually attracted to men that other women desire

This might be enough for her to start obsessing over you.

See also: How To Make My Girlfriend Jealous

3) Tease her:

To turn your friend on, you must behave differently than all those needy guys who treat her like a goddess.

You don’t want her to feel that it’s in the bag.
Quite the contrary.

That’s why you’re going to make her feel that the game is not won yet. Far from it.

You’re not the kind of guy who throws himself at her feet begging her to like him.

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And one easy way to make her feel that is to tease her.

Play around with her.
Throw in a few banters.
Show her that you don’t take her seriously.

Of course, you don’t want to do this all day long.
Simply make fun of her from time to time. Be playful and teasing.

4) Compliment her:

This step is optional and you can very well jump to the fifth step to seal the deal right now if the girl is already all over you.

But this fourth step can be of use if you want to make sure that this girl starts thinking more and more about the possibility of a relationship with you.

See also: Starting A Relationship With A Girl

dating your best friend professional advice on a few datesWe often underestimate the power of compliments.

We tell ourselves that if we give a girl a compliment, we’ll come across as a guy who’s all over her.

But it all depends on how you give this compliment. And how the girl feels about you at the time you give this compliment.

If the girl sees you as a guy who is already into her, who would do anything to sleep with her and start a relationship with her, then this compliment will obviously have little effect, or will even push her away from you.

But if the girl sees you as a guy of value, who doesn’t put her in a pedestal and who might very well not be interested in her, then it’s another story.

A well-delivered compliment can trigger a spike in positive emotions in the girl you’re giving it…and power-charge the interaction with sexual tension (which is exactly what you need to do if you want to make things happen with your friend).

What’s more, the girl immediately sees you as a guy who has the balls to express his desires. Which is a very attractive thing.

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For a compliment to produce the desired effect, it must be sexually suggestive.

A compliment on her buttocks for instance (if she’s wearing jeans that make her ass look particularly sexy): “You have a really sexy butt today”.

A bold compliment like this one would be too much with a girl you just approached on the street, but here you’re dealing with a fiend. A girl who knows you and knows that you’re not a perv. So it’s okay.

This type of compliment allows you to create sexual tension much more effectively than a less sexual compliment (like a compliment on her personality).

Remember that if you want that your friend sees you as a potential boyfriend, it’s essential that you build enough sexual tension.

Related: How To Compliment A Woman On Her Looks

5) Seal the deal:

Now is the time to take action.

It’s the time to make a move (if you haven’t already).

Because if you don’t take action after having expressed your desire, this girl may get bored and put you back in her friendzone.

It’s like trying to get an airplane off the ground: the runway isn’t infinite. And if you don’t get take off in time… BANG!

So once you’ve built enough sexual tension, don’t wait too much:

Kiss her (and sleep with her).

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Just invite her over to your place (to watch a movie, for instance) and seal the deal.

You can also check out this post on how to get out of the friend zone.

How to make a girl friend fall in love with you (and stay with you)

If you followed the steps listed above, it’s possible that your friend has already fallen in love with you.

But it’s also possible that she doesn’t have strong feelings for you yet.

If you want to get into a serious relationship with her, you must make sure that she develops some strong and lasting feelings for you.

See also: She Doesn’t Want To Be In A Relationship

Let’s take a look at how to create attachment in this girl friend you’ve just turnt into a girlfriend:

SHE must be the one craving for attention.

To make your friend fall in love with you, you have to get her hooked in some way. You have to get her to become obsessed with you. To have her think about you all day long.

If you want to achieve this, the first thing you need to do (or rather not to do) is not displaying neediness.

dating your best friend or other friends with whom you're physically intimateIf this woman senses that you need her more than she needs you, she’ll stop seeing you as a challenge.

If she’s absolutely certain of your feelings for her and your intention to stay with her for the rest of your life, she’ll stop seeing you as the mysterious, exciting guy she felt attracted to in the first place.

And she’ll cease to feel anything for you anymore.


If you behave like her lapdog, she may even develop contempt for you…

…and quickly end the relationship (or cheat on you with a guy who didn’t make that mistake).

Don’t get more emotionally invested than she is.

The easiest way to avoid being taken for granted with a woman is to not allow yourself to get too emotionally invested in her.

Don’t imagine yourself already in a serious relationship with her, or married with her.

The more you run such romantic thoughts through your head, the more you’ll get attached to this girl. Until you fall madly in love with her.

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Don’t make that mistake.

It can drive you completely crazy about a girl…and seriously affect your attitude with her.

This vicious trap causes you (without you even realizing it) to behave like a guy who’s way too much into her (which you will indeed be).

You’ll look needy.

You’ll adopt the behavior or an insecure guy who is afraid of doing the wrong thing (because he’s too worried about what the girl will think of him).

Which is anything but attractive.

The girl will feel it, and it’ll push her away.

She’ll feel in a position of power, and will love interest in you.

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So don’t fall of getting emotionally invested in this girl.

Don’t think about her.

And occupy your mind with other things (your life projects).

Dating your best girl friend: what you need to remember

In any relationship, there is a follower and a leader.

If you want your girl friend to be interested in you as a sexual partner, you need to make her want to win you over.

She must see you as a challenge. As a trophy to be won.

But the seduction process doesn’t stop once you’ve slept with her (or even once you’re officially in a relationship).

It continues throughout the relationship (at least if you want to keep this woman attached to you).

Never allow her to take you for granted, but don’t take your girlfriend for granted either.

Read: How Do I Get A Girlfriend

You must continue to seduce her once in a relationship with her.

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There’s something you need to understand:

Women want to be submissive.

They fantasize about sexual submission.

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Keep reading…

Today, you’re going to learn how to master women in a way that will turn them on.

You’re going to learn how to dominate women to make them wet with desire.

And NOT just in bed:

You’re going to implement this in other contexts and environments, be it after an approach, on a date, at a party, and more.

You’re going to implement this in your everyday life with the women you like so that they see you as a powerful dominant male who is able to satisfy their desires and take them to seventh heaven.

These actions you’re going to implement daily with the girls you want will lead them to see you as THE man to date.

You’ll stand out.

Women will see you as a potential lover and as a good lay (and that’s a bit of an understatement).

However, there are things you need to understand first.

You’ve got to be ready to try certain things that are a bit bold (more or less depending on the girl and the situation).

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About the Author

Expert in male-female relationships and passionate about evolutionary psychology, Jack Vitel has been helping for over 10 years men of all ages regain control of their sexual and love lives. He is known for his unique concept of solidity, which allows men to naturally attract the women they want by tapping into their inner masculine potential.