How to Be Dominant: 24 Traits to Possess to Become an Alpha Male

If you’re wondering how to be dominant as a man, you’re at the right place.

In this article, we’re going to see 24 powerful ways to become more dominant.

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Knowing these 24 traits of the alpha male will help you move into the right direction.

You’ll have in mind the things you have to work on in order to become a more solid guy.

And in the end, you’ll feel more powerful, more confident, more serene.

Men will respect you, and women will be attracted to you.

Not to mention the positive impacts it will have on all the other areas of your life.

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Without further ado, let’s start with the first trait of the dominant male:

1. To be dominant, know yourself:

If you wonder how to be dominant as a man, start by knowing yourself.

The alpha male knows himself.

He knows who he is.

He has a system of values which serves as a foundation that allows him to move into the right direction.

He doesn’t deviate from his system of values, but instead he takes action in order to be in tune with it.

He does what he thinks is right for him and his tribe.

Even when he seems to be the only one thinking what he thinks, he copes. Because he knows that the way he sees things is fair and just.

It’s what allows him to move forward while remaining a man of integrity, and to preserve his identity and his strength.

The dominant man knows himself.

He is aware of his strengths and his weaknesses. That’s what allows him to act in the best way possible, regardless of the situation.

2. The dominant male controls his emotions:

The alpha male is no slave to his emotions.

He’s able to put things into perspective without letting himself be trapped by his feelings.
He stays serene when the storm hits.

Unlike all those weak guys who have no control over their emotions, the alpha male slows things down and appeals to his sense of reason.

The dominant man is fully aware that he has to think logically and rationally.
That’s what allows him to make the right decisions.

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The beta male, on the other hand, finds it much more difficult to handle emotions.

He has much more difficulties to think rationally and not to let emotions take over.

His lack of emotional control leads him to vacillate at the slightest external disturbance.

The dominant male is able to remain calm and peaceful when the storm hits.

He is able to remain serene and to not panic.

He is like a rock.

And thus, he is seen as a man with whom one should be.

He is considered a reliable and dependable man.

3. The dominant male is not afraid to speak his mind:

The alpha male isn’t afraid he might offend or displease others.

He doesn’t look for external validation.

He takes responsibility for his words.

Conversely, the weak guy doesn’t dare say what he thinks. Instead he will hide, for fear he might be called out and rebuked.

The weak guy will do everything he can to please. Even going as far as denying his values and convictions.

That’s what makes him unattractive.

That’s also one of the reasons others often treat him like a mop.

As you have understand, that is not the case with the dominant male, who remains himself even though others find it offending.

That’s what makes him attractive.

That’s what make people respect him.

You might not agree with him, you might find he goes too far, but you respect him for his authenticity and audacity.

The dominant male displeases but attracts, while the weak guy pleases but leaves unmoved.

4. The dominant male doesn’t try to be friend with everybody:

When you try to appeal to everyone, you quickly become flat and boring.

What you need to understand is that since there will always be some points of disagreement between people, if you want to appeal to everybody you’ll have to behave in a way that doesn’t offend everybody, and as a result in a way that doesn’t move anybody either.

You’re going to adopt an attitude that is flat and boring, and that doesn’t really appear to anybody.

If your priority is to be friend with everyone, you’ll find it hard to be a strong and charismatic leader.

The dominant takes action while remaining in tune with his goals and his system of values.

That leads him to make some decisions that are not unanimously agreed.

5. The dominant has the ability to say no:

The dominant isn’t afraid of saying no.

He isn’t afraid of setting boundaries.

The weak guy, on the other hand, is afraid of the consequences of a no.

You can become more dominant today by practicing saying no.

It trains you to not let people push you around.

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Now, the goal isn’t to say no just to say no, like a teenager experiencing a crisis.

The goal isn’t to seek dispute and conflict for the sole purpose of seeking dispute and conflict.

The rule here is just to not accept the unacceptable.

The dominant doesn’t let other subdue him, especially when it’s against his interests.

6. The dominant isn’t afraid to express his desires:

Especially with women.

When he finds a woman sexually attractive, he isn’t afraid to tell her.

He isn’t ashamed to express his desires.

Quite the contrary of the weak guy, who will do everything he can to hide his interest when he interacts with a woman he likes.

The dominant isn’t afraid to be sexually suggestive and proactive.

It’s one of the thing that makes him so attractive.

Women get turned on by his strong and vigorous demeanor.

So, when you interact with a woman you like – especially when you just meet her – grow a pair and shamelessly express the fact that you find her sexually attractive…

…while remaining dominant and solid (that’s the key).

7. The dominant controls his body language:

The dominant controls his movements.

His body language is relaxed and serene.

Just by observing the way he moves his body, you can sense that he’s solid.

He’s calm, he’s relaxed.

He moves his body in a conscious and controled way.

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The weak guy, on the other hand, doesn’t seem to have any control over his movements.

As you’ve probably noticed, beta males have a tendency to move in a stressed and nervous way.

They often do jerky and uncontrolled movements.

You can feel stress and tension in the way they move their body or in the way they stand.

You can feel they’re not at peace.

You can feel they’re not relaxed.

Those jerky and uncontrolled movements are nothing else than nervous reactions to external disturbances.

It reflects the fact that they don’t fully control the situation.

The dominant, on the other hand, consciously chooses to do his movements.

He has the situation in hand.

He has some control over his body.

8. The dominant occupies space:

The dominant doesn’t hesitate to occupy space.

He is present.

He naturally takes place.


  • He stands tall
  • He adopts an open body language (he opens his chest and puts his shoulders back)
  • He assumes a wide stance, so that his balls can fully breath

This posture is an indicator of his high status.

9. The dominant walks like he’s the boss:

The dominant walks relatively slowly, but with robust steps.

His way of walking exudes confidence and solidity.

You can feel he’s the boss.

The weak guy, on the other hand, often walks too fast and with light steps, like a frightened little gazelle.

You see the difference?

The alpha male knows that his way of walking reflects his status. And he uses it at his advantage.

10. The dominant has a serene look:

The dominant has a controled and serene look.

His face is relaxed. There is no tension on it.

Therefore, you can sense he has everything under control.

You can feel his confidence and serenity.

He isn’t afraid to stare at someone for a long time when talking with them.

His interlocutors immediately feel that they’re talking to a strong and powerful man, who is in control of the situation.

The weak guy, on the other hand, has a stressed and scared look.

There is some tension on his face.

He has shifty eyes.

You can sense he’s stressed.

You can sense he’s not at peace.

He’s afraid to look at others in the eyes. As a result, his interlocutors can feel his frailty. The can feel that they’re not dealing with a solid guy.

The dominant, on the other hand, isn’t afraid to look at others in the eyes. He doesn’t look ashamed when he is caught staring at someone else.

11. The dominant speaks with a calm and relaxed voice:

The dominant controls his voice.

His voice is fluid.

He takes the time to deliver his words.

He speaks in a relaxed and calm way, without tension in his voice.

His voice is deep. It comes from his belly.

The weak guy, on the other hand, speaks with a stressed and jerky voice.

He struggles to control his flow and his pitch.

He speaks with a weak voice, which lacks depth.

And he talks too fast, for fear of being interrupted and not being able to deliver his message.

As a result, his words awkwardly overlap.

And since he is stressed, you can feel some tension in his voice.

You can feel he’s panicking.

It reinforces his counterparts’ sense that he is a weak guy.

As you have understood, this is not the case with the dominant, who speaks with a calm, slow, tension-free voice.

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You can feel that he is in control.

You can feel that he is confident.

And that leads his counterparts to feel less confident.

12. When he has something to say, the dominant says it:

We just saw that the dominant was speaking in a calm and relaxed way, but that doesn’t mean that he never talks loud.

When the dominant speaks, he is heard.

He talks loud enough not only to be heard by everyone, but also because he believes in what he’s saying. He knows his shit.

And when he has something to say, he says it.

He knows the value of words.

He doesn’t speaks to hear the sound of his voice, he speaks when he has something important to say.

He’s not all talk.

13. The dominant has a strong body:

The dominant is physically strong.

He is robust.

His physical condition allows him to properly deal with rivals and aggressors.

His body condition is dissuasive. It allows him to command respect more easily and naturally.

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The weak guy, on the other hand, has… a weak body.

His physical condition makes him a target of choice for predators, who would rather attack him than risk messing with a strong and powerful alpha male.

The dominant is aware of that and that’s why he takes action in order to solidify his body ever more.

He doesn’t let himself go.

14. The dominant is protective:

The dominant protects his tribe and his females.

When there is a conflit, he rises and defends the member of his group.

That’s what makes him a respected and admired man.

The members of his group know they can rely on him.

They know that he’ll always be there to protect them.

Quite the contrary of the weak guy… who is unable to protect his relatives and who would rather avoid the conflit.

That brings us to the next point…

15. The dominant is combat-ready:

The dominant is not particularly quarrelsome, but he’s ready to fight if it’s necessary.

how to be dominant personalityHe doesn’t look for trouble, but if he finds himself in a confit, he’ll do everything he can to put an end to it and emerge victorious.

The dominant is not the impulsive guy screwing around at every corner.

But if things have come up that make it necessary for him to fight, he’ll fight.

It is important to be prepared if things go wrong.

And to be ready to give your all in case of conflict.

16. The dominant has a goal:

This is a crucial aspect of the dominant.

Unlike all those beta males who wander aimlessly, the dominant has a direction.

Unlike all those beta males who constantly tries to find themselves, the dominant builds himself up by taking action.

Everyday he makes progress toward his goal.

Everyday he adds a stone to the building.

This fire in his stomach makes him extremely attractive.

Others take notice.

It commands respect and admiration.

17. The dominant is active:

Again, the dominant takes action.

He finds the means to reach his goal.

Unlike many weak guys, he doesn’t wait for it to fall right into his laps.

He doesn’t let laziness keep him into inactivity and prevent it from moving toward his goals.

If he’s tired or his motivation starts to decrease, the dominant is able to find in himself the ressources to take action.

The weak guy, on the other hand, is passive and is just lying on his back waiting for it to happen. He just hopes, without ever taking action to get things moving.

18. The dominant leads:

The dominant is a leader.


He doesn’t lead for the sole purpose of leading.

He doesn’t lead in order to look more attractive or charismatic.

He leads because it’s necessary.

He leads because it’s what the members of his groups need.

He naturally takes the lead when the situation requires.

He takes the lead when it’s necessary.

He is pro-active and takes the initiative to solve an issue or to accomplish something.

19. The dominant isn’t easily diverted from his purpose:

Whether it is a short term goal or a long term goal, the dominant doesn’t let himself be diverted from it.

He isn’t easily distracted.

When he sets a goal, he does what he has to do to reach it.

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He doesn’t let himself be diverted from his goal.

The alpha male analyses the obstacles standing between him and his goals, then takes action in order to destroy them or cancel their effects, so that he can keep pushing forward.

The exact opposite of the weak guy, who is easily diverted from his goals. Be it by other people, by a variety of temptations, or by any other obstacles standing between him and what he wants.

The weak guy would rather avoid difficulties and give up.

He chooses to resign rather than risking a confrontation or too big an effort.

As a result, he seldom gets what he wants.

20. The dominant takes risks:

Unlike the weak guy, the dominant isn’t afraid to take risks.

He isn’t afraid of conflict.

He is aware that sometimes one cannot avoid conflict if one is to survive or create a better world for one’s tribe.

At one time or another, he will have to take risks to neutralize ennemies or obstacles.

21. The dominant doesn’t let fear paralyze him:

In case of danger, the dominant may feel some stress, but which is nothing else than a beginning of an adrenaline pumping.

When he feels this excitation, he transforms it into positive energy or aggressivity which allows him to neutralize the attacker or any other obstacle.

He doesn’t let this slight feeling of stress turn into fear and paralyze him.

Instead, he welcomes it and makes a powerful ally out of it.

And even if he were to be caught off guard by fear, he wouldn’t let it paralyze him.

The dominant is able to force himself.

He is able to get a grip of himself.

He is able to take action in spite of fear.

He is able to overstep his bounds.

Whereas the weak guy, on the other hand, dreads this slight rush of adrenalin and starts to panic when it shows up.

He lets this excitation turn into incapacitating fear which is going to prevent him from taking action.

22. The dominant persists despite the difficulty:

The dominant doesn’t let himself be discouraged by difficulties.

He is aware that difficulty is part of the game and that in many cases it’s impossible to avoid it.

The weak guy, on the other hand, gives up easily… as soon as things are getting a little bit difficult.

And let’s not even talk about failure…

The weak guy is afraid of failure.

He’s so afraid of it that he chooses to not even try.

As you might guess, this is not the case with the dominant, who chooses to push forward despite failure.

He is aware that failure is part of the game.

And in case of failure, he gets back on his feet and keeps pushing forward.

He has the will to win.

23. The dominant is generous:

The dominant takes care of his tribe.

He shows generosity by sharing accumulated ressources with his fellows.

That’s one of the reasons people follow and support him.

He is a solid and caring man, who puts the good of his community ahead of his personal comfort.

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He is a provider.

He brings value to his community, instead of vampirising it.

24. The dominant shows the way:

The manly man doesn’t tell others how to behave or how to act, he shows it.

He shows it by his actions.

He sets an example.

He lives in a way he considers to be the best.

And everyone, men and women, want to be at his side.

He galvanizes others by his ideas, his vision of the world and the future, or his dreams.

To be more dominant, copy those attributes.

Make yours the attributes we just saw and you’ll get closer to the archetype of the dominant.

You’ll become more and more like this dominant male so many men want to look like.

This will have a significant impact on most aspects of your life.

[BONUS] How to be more dominant in bed:

A lot of guys get it wrong when it comes to have sex with a girl:

They treat women like angels… As if they were some kind of innocent creatures.

And after that, they wonder why they struggle to please a woman in bed.

They wonder why they can’t make them wet and sweep them off their feet.

My advice to these guys: be more dominant in bed.

That’s precisely what we’re going to talk about right now.

Understand this:

To be dominant with a woman in bed, don’t make love to her, fuck her.

You must be strong and act as a man.

If you play it soft during the whole sex act, you’ll look soft and you’ll leave her disatisfied.

Women want sex. They want hard and wild sex. No matter what some people might claim.

To be dominant as a man in bed, don’t hesitate to fuck her hard.

Don’t hesitate to treat her like a bitch.

Don’t hesitate to talk dirty, to spank her, to pull her hair, to firmly grab her body parts, and so on.

Try this and see how it arouses her.

It may seem kind of harsh, but that’s how it works.

Of course you shouldn’t do it in a way that is going to hurt them, but simply be firm enough so that they can feel that you can be dominant.

That’s the way you’ll make her feel who is in charge.

That’s the way she’ll be able to feel your masculinity and be completely into you.

When you satisfy a girl in bed, she’s going to want to see you again.

She’s going to want to be fucked by you again and again.

Conversely, she won’t be interested in this guy who treats her like a little angel and who is afraid to act as a man and dominate her.

how to be dominant man in the bedroomSo make sure to kind of mistreat women in bed sometimes.

You’ll notice how it arouses them.

You’ll also notice that some women love being spanked or have their hair pulled, and that every girl love to be more or less mistreated during sex.

It makes them really horny.

It allows them to reveal the bad girl who’s inside.

[BONUS] How to be dominant in a relationship:

Being dominant in a relationship can help you (a lot) make your girlfriend attracted and fall in love with you (for lack of a better term).

Right now, I’m going to give you some powerful tips you can put into action to appear more dominant (and to be more dominant) with your girlfriend or your wife.

So if you wonder how to be more dominant in a relationship, stay tuned.

Let’s go:

• Don’t look for the validation of your girl:

To be dominant in a relationship, you should never look for the validation of your girlfriend or wife.

Because if you do this, you’re going to communicate in a more or less obvious way that you need her affection.

You’re going to look needy (and not only look, you’ll actually be needy).

Not only this kind of attitude makes you look weak (and thus absolutely not dominant), but it also makes women run away.

Being dominant in a relationship starts with not putting your girl on a pedestal.

Consider yourself as having a value greater than (or at least equal) to hers. Otherwise the game is already lost.

• To be dominant in a relationship, always be leading:

To be dominant in your relationship, be in charge.

Your ability to lead is key.

Women are attracted to men they can just give in to.

They love when their man controls the situation.

It is your job to direct the movement, to escalate and take the interaction to the next level.

• Don’t ask:

If you want to kiss her, to establish physical contact, to ask her a bold question… don’t ask for permission.

Just do it.

Again, the dominant takes action.

If you always ask permission to your girl for every single thing you do, you’ll look weak (besides feeling like shit).

Instead of asking for permission, just take action, or…:

• Give her orders:

Giving a girl orders is a simple and effective way to appear dominant.

Instead of asking her a question or a request, just give her an order.

You can do this in a lot of situations: you can command her to sit (or to stand), you can command her to give you something, you can command her to answer a question of yours, you can command her to change position during sex, etc.

Basically you’ll be asking for the same thing, but in a much more dominant way.

For some girls that’s a real turn on.

• Make it a habit to look at your girl right into the eyes when you talk to her:

Look at your girl right into the eyes when talking to her.

Or more specifically, right into the eye. Because if you keep switching between the left eye and the right eye you’ll look a bit nervous.

Choose an eye (her right eye or her left eye), then stare at it (when you talk to her).

By looking at the girl right into the eye when you talk to her, you appear dominant and solid (you also feel more dominant and solid).

• Don’t be hesitant:

Women want a man who knows what he wants.
Not a man who is constantly unsure and always questioning himself.

To be dominant in a relationship, don’t be this weak guy who is afraid to take action.
Don’t be this weak guy who is constantly doing things by half.

When you say something to your girl, say it without hesitation.

When you say to a girl that you would like to see her again on a date, say it with conviction, without going up in pitch like you would when asking a question.

When entering into a bar or a restaurant with your girl, don’t be hesitating when choosing a place to sit. Spot a table, walk toward it, and sit.

• Be unshakable:

Some women will frequently test your solidity with shit tests or various attempt to destabilize you.

It’s only natural.

They do that either to test you, or to not look like too much easy.

Some girls will do that to see if they can easily destabilize you.

Don’t play their game.

Be unshakable.

Don’t let those shit tests affect you.

By being unshakable, you’ll be much more dominant in your relationships and interactions with women.

• Show persistence:

Showing persistence is crucial if you want to be dominant in a relationship.

Some women you’ll interact with will deliberately reject you, either to test you, or to not look like easy (to protect their reputation).

Often a girl will reject you in the first place only to let herself be kissed (and more) afterward.

Most of the time, she’ll do that to ease her conscience and to raise her value.

That’s why you should always persist before considering that a girl is not interested.

how to be dominant man in relationshipSome girls will reject you several times before giving in to you.

The key here is not letting yourself be affected by those rejections.

Show emotional stability and keep a masculine and playful attitude.

Women will find you much more dominant and attractive.

This is a turn on for a lot of women.

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