How To Be Charismatic: 17 Powerful Tips (Increase Your Charisma)

If you’re wondering how to be more charismatic, you’re in the right place.

In this article, you’ll learn some powerful tips that you can use today to be charismatic.

It will help you develop a charismatic personality and become more likable.

develop charismaBeing charismatic will help you achieve more things in your life.

It will help you attract more interesting people, fascinate them, inspire them, arouse curiosity and desire

It will help you attract opportunities like a magnet.

What is great about charisma is that you can develop it.

It’s not something you’re born with and that’s it.

Everyone can develop his charisma.

YOU can develop your charisma.

And that’s precisely what this article is all about.

I’m going to share with you 17 powerful tips and pieces of advice that will help you do so.

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Without further ado, let’s begin with the first piece of advice you need to implement in order to be charismatic:

1. In order to be charismatic, be conscious of your value:

Being conscious of your value is key.

If you constantly doubt yourself and your abilities, it will be hard for you to appear (and to be) charismatic.

I’m not telling you to never question yourself. What I’m telling you is to nurture a sense of achievement and self-worth.

You should be aware of your potential to achieve great things.

You should realize that you can do everything, as long as you take action in order to make things happen.

This awareness will help you move forward.

You’re not going to stay idle. You’re not going to do nothing in your life. You’re not going to feel sorry for yourself.

You’re not going to constantly look up to other people who you think are better than you.

Because you’ll be conscious of your value. You’ll be aware of your potential.

Now, the key is to exploit this potential (more on that later in this post).

2. Don’t try to appeal to everyone:

You can’t be all things to all people.

Appealing to everyone appeals to no one.

When you try to appeal to everybody, you become boring. You become tasteless. You lose your charm.

When you try to appeal to everyone, you actually don’t attract anybody. You fail to evoke strong emotions in others. You stop being attractive and desirable.

allureLet’s illustrate this by taking the example of political figures:

Political leaders who inspire us the most aren’t the ones who try to appeal to everyone.

It is not those who are constantly mired in political correctness, for fear of shocking some people or to make themselves unpopular with the media.

On the contrary, those who bring the greatest excitement and delight are those who are not afraid to say what they think and what needs to be said, at the risk of offending some people.

Such persons are charismatic.

They are not afraid of displeasing some people by sticking to their opinions and by doing things in accordance with their values and principles.

When you’re desperate to please, you become uninteresting. You become boring. You become tasteless. You don’t have a personality of your own anymore.

Not being afraid to displease or to offend is quite attractive.

People will respect you for this.

Which leads us to the third important piece of advice of this article…

3. Have integrity:

Having integrity means acting in a way that is in accordance with your values and principles.

Having integrity also means acting in such a way that your actions are in accordance with your thoughts (or at least with what you want).

You form a whole. Rock solid, united and unbreakable.

You don’t do things that are opposed to your principles.

Otherwise, you would appear as a wimp or a coward.

develop charismaIn your opinion, is the charismatic man rather a solid guy who acts in accordance with his value, or a coward?

You know the right answer.

The charismatic man doesn’t let laziness or fear prevent him from taking action (or from not taking action) in accordance with his values and principles.

One thing to mention here:

It is possible that your principles and values evolve over time, depending on various things such as your environment, your understanding of the world, some knowledge that you get, etc.

When your principles and values have evolved, you can take certain actions you wouldn’t have taken before (because not in accordance with the principles and values you had at that time).

In this case you still have integrity, since you act in accordance with your principles and values (at a given time).

The key here is to be incorruptible.

It is to do what you think is just for you and your people, not letting fear, laziness or other things divert you from your goals.

4. Be at ease with your desires and your opinions:

Not being ashamed of your desires, your opinions, your tastes… is something extremely attractive.

You just said something that didn’t please?

Don’t apologies. Be at ease with what you said.

Don’t clear yourself of responsibility. Don’t flee like a coward. Hold your position.

Don’t change your attitude in an attempt to please (remember what we talked about in point 2).

You try to kiss a girl you like but she tells you that you rush things?

Don’t apologies for finding her sexually attractive. Be at ease with your desire.

You have some political views that some people will disapprove?

Don’t apologies. Be at ease with it.

You’re not a guy who repudiates his values in an attempt to be accepted.

You’re the one with the cock.

5. Stop being a sheep:

Here I’m not talking about becoming a degenerate outcast smoking weed all day long and labelling himself as “anti system” or “peace and love”.

Those guys are no less sheep than the people they label as being sheep.

They didn’t get to the bottom of things nor took the time to really think about this by themselves.

ways to become charismaticNot being a sheep starts with thinking by yourself.

It starts with not believing everything you’re told.

And for that, you should do some digging on your own.

But also and in particular develop your critical mind and try to understand by yourself how things really work… So that you can form your own opinion (and not adopt an opinion others would like you to adopt).

Don’t blindly follow the crowd.

Don’t let some people dictate what you should do or think.

This way, you’ll feel more intellectually free.

You’ll have your own opinions. Opinions that are really yours.

You’ll be more charismatic.

6. Give it all:

Leave nothing in the tank when it comes to your projects and your dreams.

Make them the driving force of your life.

Don’t leave them aside as so many people do, telling themselves that it’s not possible, that it’s not for them or that it requires way to much work…

You only live once.

fireWhat moves you?

What triggers strong emotions in you?

What do you want to fight for?

Have something that makes you feel alive.

Have this flame in you.

Don’t live the life that some people would like to impose on you.

Live your life on your terms.

Fight for your dreams and for what is just.

Nobody said it would be easy.

And that is a good thing. Cause that’s the way you’ll become stronger and develop a powerful charisma.

7. Get in the habit of facing uncomfortable situations:

Getting into the habit of facing (and even look for) uncomfortable situations is one of the key that will allow you to develop a charismatic personality.

It will force you to expand your comfort zone.

And as a result, it will help you multiply opportunities.

It will help you grow your self-confidence dramatically, by progressively making uncomfortable situations comfortable.

larger than lifeBut there’s more…

Getting used to constantly going out of your comfort zone is great for you testosterone.

Getting used to take action in the face of fear will cause your testosterone levels to rise.

On the other hand, the guy who never does anything uncomfortable becomes soft.

I don’t know about you, but there are times when I don’t go out a lot, when I just prefer to stay at home to work, read or watch interesting documentaries…

When I’ve been in this mode for a while and that a friend invites me to do something that makes me feel a bit uncomfortable (out of laziness or social anxiety for instance), I am making an effort and accepting his invitation. Even if I feel lazy on the moment.

And afterwards, I don’t regret it: I feel in better condition, with more energy and confidence.

Simply because I made the effort to head toward an uncomfortable situation.

I made the effort to go out of my comfort zone.

Going out of your comfort zone goes hand in hand with ongoing improvement.

Take action on a day-to-day basis in order to expand your comfort zone.

Always seek to push yourself beyond your limits (at least slightly).
Always seek to do better.

Don’t let yourself become a worm and do nothing with life.

8. Take initiatives:

In your opinion, why most leaders are charismatic?

Precisely because they are leaders.

They take initiatives.

They give a direction, and they make us move into this direction.

They have this energy that drains us toward them and make us want to follow them.

Getting into the habit of taking initiatives – whether it is in your projects or in your social life – will help you increase your charisma.

Getting used to take things in hand will greatly help you develop your leadership.

9. Be on form:

A nice level of energy, it helps a lot.

When you’re all floppy, it’s not easy to motivate yourself to take initiatives and go out of your comfort zone.

So you’d better be on form:

Get enough sleep: 7-8 hours of sleep every night (on average – it depends on the individual).

Eat properly: eat a lot of fruits and vegetables (ideally organic, since they are more nutrient-rich and healthy). And avoid processed food like the plague.

Work out: it will allow you to rise your energy levels and be in better shape.

These are the three pillars of a great level of energy that will allow you to do what it takes when required.

10. Dress accordingly:

Charisma also hinges on the way you dress.

A clothing that sticks to your morphology and your personality contributes to your charisma in a positive way.

Bear in mind that when forming a first judgement about you, people look at the way your dress.

When you meet someone new, this person has very few elements to form a judgement.

They are going to use things such as your facial expression, your body language, the way you talk and your clothing.

Hence the importance to dress in a way that contributes to your charisma in a positive way.

improve charismaYour clothing reflects your social status:

If you dress like a bum, people will see you like a bum.

On the other hand, if you dress like a businessman, people will see you like a business man.

An example a little bit extreme, but it’s just so that you understand clearly the impact of your clothing on your perceived social status.

I’m not telling you to dress like a business man, but simply to dress properly.

Your clothing also reflects your personality and your social intelligence.

11. Use alpha body language:

Your body language says a lot.

Just by looking at a person’s body language, you can tell whether this person feels at ease or is nervous.

You can tell whether they appreciate the moment or are bored.

Have this in mind.

Adopt a body language that shows that you’re at ease and that you fear nothing.

Don’t be afraid to occupy space.

Don’t be afraid to adopt the posture and gesture of the boss.

But that’s not all…

Learn also how to be expressive with your body.

You can convey emotions much more effectively by making gestures.

The key is to move in a confident way. That is to say without making nervous gestures, but by consciously choosing the gestures you do.

Being expressive with your body adds energy to your message. It makes it more impactful.

Body language is a key component of your charisma.

12. Make strong eye contact:

Eye contact is another key component of your charisma.

Looking at people in the eyes when talking to them allows you not only to convey your message effectively, but also and above all to project presence, dominance and power.

It shows that you mean what you say.

It shows that you’re not afraid to speak your mind.

It shows that you control the situation.

Needless to say that it contributes greatly to your charisma.

I’m not telling you to stare non-stop at the person in front of you, but that you look at them when you say something to them.

When they say something to you, you can – from time to time – look away (but never look down).

Bear in mind that you must use your look in order to convey your message in an effective way.

That’s why it’s precisely when you’re saying something to the person in front of you that you should make a strong eye contact.

13. Control your emotions:

Don’t be a slave to your emotions.

Don’t allow yourself to be ruled by emotion.

Don’t let your emotions take over.

I understand that it might be difficult sometimes, but tell yourself that when you show restraint and control, you are attractive.

It contributes greatly to your charismatic personality.

how to be charmingBy getting used to not let emotions get in the way, you train yourself to be more pro-active.

You become less reactive. You start reacting less and acting more.

Instead of constantly reacting nervously to your environment, you start acting in full awareness.

You really choose how you act, since you stop reacting to other people or external disturbances.

You become more stable and you start to fully control yourself.

14. Don’t be monotonous:

The most charismatic people are often those who know how to be unpredictable.

When you’re not predictable, you’re not monotonous. You’re not boring.

A powerful way to do so is to be display a contrasted personality.

What does it mean exactly?

Well, for instance not looking constantly joyful, nor looking constantly grim.

Not  being constantly laughing or smiling, nor being constantly pissed or upset.

The key to display a contrasted personality is to display a full range of emotions.

It is to convey many various emotions to the people you’re interacting with.

develop incredible charismaEmotions are like colors on a picture.

The picture people find the most beautiful are often the ones that are the most contrasted (pictures of sunsets for instance).

15. Be able to be in the present:

Charismatic people have the ability to be present.

Their presence is what make them so captivating and attracting.

They are here, physically and mentally.

They’re not stuck in their head.

They are not lost in their thoughts when interacting with others.

They are not thinking about the past of the future when interacting with people.

They are here, in the present.

That’s why their presence is strong.

That’s why they can captivate us effectively.

That’s why we are drawn to them.

16. Have a mission:

Having a purpose in your life serves as a solid foundation on which you can build your charismatic personality.

If you have no purpose, you don’t have anywhere to go. You don’t have anything that really moves you.

You just wander in life, not knowing what to do.

On the contrary, when you have a strong purpose in your life – a purpose that is greater than you – you start moving.

You start taking action in order to realize your vision.

The most charismatic leaders are the ones who have a great vision for themselves and their people.

This great vision is what motivates them to take action everyday.

It’s what gives them the energy to do what it takes.

It makes them extremely attractive.

17. Take your responsibilities:

Taking your responsibilities for your choices and your actions is something extremely attractive.

You take your responsibilities, like a real leader should.

You did something that other people didn’t like? Take the responsibility for it.

Stop making excuses.

Don’t be like those guys who constantly blame others for their failures.

By taking full responsibility for your actions (or inaction), you become the problem… and the solution.

That means that you start to have full control over the situation.

You stop being passive and waiting for others to do what it takes instead of you.

You are the only one who can take action in order to progress toward your goals.

You are fully responsible for your failures… and successes.

If you want to be charismatic, take your responsibilities.

How to be more charismatic – What you need to understand:

You don’t become charismatic overnight.

Becoming charismatic requires some time.

As you have understand, it requires a certain mindset.

The key is to constantly seek to improve yourself and push yourself beyond your boundaries.

From here, everything is possible.

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