Why Is She Acting Distant All Of A Sudden [9 Possible Causes]

When a girl you want to date (or your girlfriend) is suddenly distancing herself from you, it can be confusing.

Why is she acting distant all of a sudden?

And what can you do to regain her attention?

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That’s what we’re going to see in this article…

…with 9 possible reasons for her distancing herself from you, and the 4 essential steps you need to take to make her interested in you again (and to keep her interested).

Whether it’s by text or in real life.

As you’ll see, it’s all about psychology…and female nature.

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Let’s get started.

Why is she distancing herself from me: 9 possible causes

The reasons why a woman suddenly distances herself from a man can be various.

In fact, it can a sign of interest just as it can be a sign of disinterest.

Let’s review them.

👉 She no longer desires you

A woman who no longer feels attracted to you will naturally become distant (unless you’re very good friends with her, but in that case you’re not off the hook because you’re probably friendzoned).

She may have been attracted to you at first. Maybe she was intrigued by you. There was some mystery about your intentions and feelings for her.

But because of mistakes you’ve made, her arousal for you fade.

You may have been too clingy with her (we’ll come back to that below), you may have shown too much interest in her (and thus come across as a needy or desperate), or you may have waited too much before making a move (and thus come across as a passive guy who doesn’t have the balls to take action to get what he wants).

A whole bunch of mistakes that may have caused this woman to lose interest in you.

👉 She wants to appear more desirable in your eyes

Unlike the previous cause, this cause is rather (if not completely) a positive sign.

She’s attracted to you, she wants to seduce you, and therefore seeks to increase her value in your eyes.

In other words, to be more desirable.

And one way to do this is by making herself more unattainable.

By putting some distance between you and her.

girlfriend acting distant tough time for most menThis is a behavior that is often observed in a woman after she has shown herself to be a little too attracted to you.

As if to counterbalance a too great expression of interest on her part.

For instance, she makes a declaration of love while being drunk, or tries to kiss you. You push her away by telling her that she’s going a bit too fast… and to counterbalance this clingy behavior she had she deliberately shows herself distant.

She is concerned about the image you have of her.

This distancing reflects her will to increase her value in your eyes.

👉 She’s testing your solidity

A woman can also deliberately distance herself from you in order to test you. Or to play games.

Which is a way for her to assess your confidence level. And especially whether you’re solid or not.

Are you a strong, masculine, unshakable man that nothing can disturb? Or are you a weak beta male who is easily dominated?

dating goals spending time with good matchShe wants to see if you have what it takes to be her boyfriend (or sexual partner).

She’s watching for your reaction. And depending on this one you will score points…or lose some.

👉 She’s sulking

A woman can of course also distance herself because she’s pouting.

For instance after an argument, after a lack of attention from you (you forgot her birthday, or another important date…), after catching you flirting with another girl…

It’s her way of punishing you. And to tell you “You hurt me, I’m mad at you.”, in an indirect way.

Related: What Does It Mean When A Woman Is Silent?

It can also be an attempt to regain the emotional upper hand, by showing herself less accessible (and thus forcing you to invest yourself more, to get her attention again).

This distancing can go from a few seconds (for instance just after you’ve teased her in a bit of a nasty way) to a few days or weeks (for a more problematic infringement or offense on your part).

👉 She’s (really) busy

It’s possible that a woman is distancing herself from you because she’s busy, plain and simple.

She may have an exam to take, a busy week at work, a competition, family problems, and so on.

In short, she just doesn’t have the time right now.

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Here, I must insist on the “really”.

Because many women will tell you that they are busy when in reality it’ll just be an excuse to keep some distance between you.

This will to maintain some distance can be positive (she wants to appear more desirable in your eyes) or negative (she doesn’t feel anything for you and just wants you to leave her alone).

👉 She’s lost

There is a conflict between her heart and her reason. Between her emotions and her rational reasoning.

For instance, she may be madly in love with you but in a relationship with another man she doesn’t want to break up with.

Another example: she is attracted to you but you live too far apart and she was once traumatized by a long-distance relationship that ended badly.

A third example: because of mistakes you’ve made, this woman had decided not to pursue your relationship, but a recent change in your attitude has reawakened her desire for you.

As a result, she is lost.

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She doesn’t know where she stands.

On the one hand, she wants something to happen with you, but on the other hand she has some blockages that keeps her away.

So she pulls away to protect herself, or to give herself time to think.

👉 She feels like things are moving too fast

Typical of some shy girls, who lack experience.

They’re afraid of rushing things, or of looking like easy girls, or of what their friends or family might think if she sleeps with you too quickly.

So this girl slows things down by putting some distance between you and her, as a protective reflex.

It’s a way to make sure she doesn’t lose value in your eyes (see reason number 2).

👉 She met someone

She met another man who made a strong impression on her…and with whom she may even have started a relationship.

Her distancing herself is a result of her loss of desire for you (which is now for another man).

She’s not as interested in you as she used to be.

👉 She’s preparing to leave you

If you’re in a relationship with her and she’s becoming distant, it can of course be explained by a temporary discontent on her part (she’s giving you the cold shoulder, she wants to take revenge on you by ignoring you) or by a lack of time (class, work, kids…)… In which case there’s no need to panic (it’s just temporary).

But it can also be a sign that she wants to break up with you.

She wants to end the relationship and she’s pulling away to prepare herself psychologically.

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Now that we’ve reviewed the most common reasons why a woman is acting distant all of a sudden, let’s see what you can do to regain her interest.

What to do if she’s acting distant all of a sudden

The first thing to do is to…

1) Stay calm

Don’t start to panic.

Don’t let your emotions take over.

This could cause you to make some mistakes that would drive her away even more.

Keep a cool head.

Tell yourself that this distancing is temporary (because most of the time it is, especially if you implement the advice below).

highly trained relationship coaches say she's interestedTake a deep breath and calm down in order to analyze the situation.

First, you need to identify the possible causes of this distancing.

Have you been too clingy with her lately?

Did you make the mistake of displaying too much neediness?

Have you done things that could have led her to lose respect for you?

Has she displayed too much interest in you recently (in which case she might be distancing herself to compensate)?

Does she have psychological blockages to a relationship with you?

Is she overloaded at work, in class, or with family tasks?

Have you caught her chatting discreetly on her phone with a stranger?

how many guys asked for just a few minutesIdentify the possible cause(s) for her distancing.

With a clear head.

Take a few days to do this if necessary (some answers will come to mind on their own over time, when you’re not looking for them).

2) Don’t be clingy (and if you were, stop)

A common mistake men make when a woman distances herself from them is to try to re-create a connection by all means.

As soon as the girl starts acting distant, they start questioning her about this sudden distancing.
And they become invasive.

By doing this, they come across as needy guys.

Which is anything but attractive.
And which will only push that woman further away (instead of attracting her back).

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So don’t fall into the trap of trying to get closer.

Especially if her distancing is the result of a loss of desire for you.

To re-create a connection, what you must do is…

3) Treat the problem at its source

Now that you’ve identified the cause or causes of her distancing, you can treat the issue.

  • In the case where her distancing is due to a loss of desire for you, make yourself more desirable, more inaccessible, while adopting a more attractive attitude, or even using jealousy… in order to intrigue her and make feel an urge to come back to you.
  • In the case where her distancing is a test, all you have to do is not to react, to remain unaffected (or to appear so). You’re a solid man. This woman is not your priority in life.
  • In the case where she’s giving you the cold shoulder because of something wrong you’ve done, just give her a little more of your attention, but not too much as to not look needy. You may eventually acknowledge that you screwed up, but without expecting any validation from her (otherwise you’ll sound needy).
  • In the case where she is lost (or thinks things are moving too fast), don’t try to convince her with words. It’ll only create more resistance in her (and could make you sound like a desperate guy, which is anything but attractive). Remain unmoved, keep your charming attitude, and let the magic happen: she’ll eventually get attached, and convince herself that she should stay with you.
  • In the case where she has met someone or is preparing to leave you, combine the tips from the first and last points.

Once you’ve dealt with the problem at its source, all you have to do next is…

4) Avoid making the same mistakes that drove her away in the first place

If her distancing is the result of mistakes you made (especially mistakes that led her to lose her desire for you), learn from them.

Don’t engage again in the behaviors that caused her to lose interest.

Stay solid in all circumstances.

And use a little more tact and common sense in tricky situations.

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Today, you’re going to learn how to master women in a way that will turn them on.

You’re going to learn how to dominate women to make them wet with desire.

And NOT just in bed:

You’re going to implement this in other contexts and environments, be it after an approach, on a date, at a party, and more.

You’re going to implement this in your everyday life with the women you like so that they see you as a powerful dominant male who is able to satisfy their desires and take them to seventh heaven.

These actions you’re going to implement daily with the girls you want will lead them to see you as THE man to date.

You’ll stand out.

Women will see you as a potential lover and as a good lay (and that’s a bit of an understatement).

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You’ve got to be ready to try certain things that are a bit bold (more or less depending on the girl and the situation).

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About the Author

Expert in male-female relationships and passionate about evolutionary psychology, Jack Vitel has been helping for over 10 years men of all ages regain control of their sexual and love lives. He is known for his unique concept of solidity, which allows men to naturally attract the women they want by tapping into their inner masculine potential.